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Friendship

Friendship

Why do we as humans need friends? People with strong friendships are actually shown to live longer, healthier and more fulfilling lives.
Origin of Altum Cards

Origin of Altum Cards

“I don’t think this is worth our time,” I said to my wife Sarah in the car after another underwhelming meeting with our church small group. 

Volunteering

Volunteering

Taking time to focus on someone else or a cause bigger than us is a great way to move toward humility. It causes us to take the focus off ourselves and consider others. An added benefit of volunteering is friendship.

 

The Power of Food

The Power of Food

Food brings people together. Consider what we do when we’re dating someone or going to meet up with an old friend: we eat together. We go grab lunch as an excuse to chat. 
Books for discussion

Books for discussion

I’ve found a book discussion is almost a guarantee to have a great conversation. There’s something about the depth of the information we’re able to get from a book...
Why good conversation?

Why good conversation?

Occasionally it helps me to take a step back and look at the big picture. At work, in our family and on projects, having an understanding of the big picture is crucial. It answers the question of “Why are we doing this?”
Disagreements

Disagreements

Everyone who has had a friend for more than 10 minutes knows that disagreements happen. Sometimes I feel like this problem has become...

Consistency of Meeting

"We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, then, is not an act, but a habit.” When I originally saw this quote it was attributed to Aristotle.
3 Pillars of Conversation

3 Pillars of Conversation

Here are 3 pillars to build a conversation on:

  1. Listen. This should be obvious, but it is worth saying because it’s so important. Beyond setting down our phones, we need to be mentally present.
Awkward Silences

Awkward Silences

In college we had this friend that we called the Terminator. But not because he was ripped or ruthless like Arnold Schwarzenegger. But because he terminated conversations.
Solitude

Solitude

A few years ago my uncle read an article that said coffee can help athletic performance. He was funny about it, he started telling my aunt that he was...

Humility first

Humility first

Sometimes the first step of starting a friendship is the hardest part. For some of us it can induce anxiety to reach out to a person we don’t know...